Just like there were no guidebooks for mast cell activation syndrome (MCAS) when I was diagnosed in 2015, I’ve had to navigate remission on my own. I began blogging to an extremely small audience, so part of me hopes someday this post will serve a bigger audience too. But mostly, I hope MCAS diagnosis and treatment improves so that no one has such a drastic journey from illness to remission anymore.
(Most cases of MCAS are not as severe as mine was.)
Today, I am celebrating three years of MCAS remission, and it still feels surreal. I still have imposter syndrome about the most mundane activities like riding in an Uber or going to a gym. I tolerate fragrances, although I still try to avoid them. I can eat whatever I want, but the majority of my food is organic. I am a competitive figure skater.
Remission has been challenging to document because I want to live, not write about living. Here are few tips I’ve complied from my chaotic notes over the past three years:
1. Do not go to a grocery store without a plan
You know how they say don’t go to the grocery store hungry? Well, definitely don’t go to the grocery store if you’ve been hungry for 5 years. For context, only 15 foods (no spices!) were safe for me to eat before remission.
The freedom of not needing to read labels is exhilarating! My joy, however, was quickly overshadowed but the realization I didn’t remember how to cook. I couldn’t even decide what I wanted to cook. At one point, I actually left the grocery store with no food because I was completely overwhelmed by the choices. Switching to online shopping and order pick up helped me plan actual meals instead of smorgasbords of histamine, salicylates, and FODMAPs.
2. Do not share your remission story at a bar; you cannot handle free alcohol
On related note, do not try to use your nausea repression skills on tequila. That’s how I learned I can shoot calamari out my nose.
3. Your MCAS fears will no longer serve you
I still have to give myself pep talks to overcome my MCAS fears, which most people can’t relate to. My illness was traumatic, so it’s no surprise my remission has been a psychological rollercoaster. Here are the fears I’m especially proud of overcoming:
- Traveling alone with no service dog
- Orange juice
- Strength training
- Hugs
- Crowds
- Leftovers
Again, there was no guidebook for my remission, so I just clung to my mantra: choose joy over fear. I have no regrets. (I still haven’t overcome my MCAS fear of jeans or bikini waxes, neither really spark joy either.)
4. Pursue your childhood dreams; no one will know your age anyway
In remission, you’ll seek adventure like a 20 year old, exude the joy of 7 year old, but have the wisdom of a 70 year old–and thanks to hEDS, no one will know how old you are. Although remission may enable you to do “normal” things, your MCAS experiences will probably set you apart from your peers, so you might as well as chase joy not the status quo.
Remission is the ultimate permission to do whatever the fuck you want.
Nobody, including myself, expected me to pursue my childhood dream of figure skating. Instead of worrying about my health history or other people’s expectations, I tried it and fell in love. I have skated 2-4 times almost every week since I started in November 2021, because it fills me with immense joy.
5. Beware of cults
The isolation I faced before remission is the hardest aspect for people to understand. I couldn’t even invite my mom over for my birthdays without risking a severe MCAS reaction to her clothes and hair. I craved community the most. When remission hit, I wanted to be EVERYONE’S friend.
I quickly learned: Many people will be attracted to your remission joy but repelled by your boundaries to protect it.
As an extrovert, I was so desperate for connection that I couldn’t recognize superficial relationships. I got sucked into a borderline cult before I could say “shake it ‘til you make it.” Although I accepted the glorified hospital socks, I couldn’t reconcile my boundaries with their marketing goals.
Remission is precious. It will take time to find an in-person community that values your presence, truly celebrates your journey, and respects that you will not take your health for granted.
6. The hard work of healing doesn’t end at remission
Remission doesn’t heal all MCAS damage overnight. It doesn’t even exempt you from doctor appointments. (I was so mad when I realized I had to return to the clinic for refills.)
Although my inflammation is down and my gut juices have returned to their appropriate spaces, some of the damage in my body caused by MCAS is permanent (e.g. gallbladder, kidney, GI tract, dura). Other parts (e.g. my muscles and adrenal glands) are still recovering.
Remission is the ultimate permission to do whatever the fuck you want, but if you want to do whatever the fuck you want for a long time, I recommend dedicating some time to healing. Every day of remission, I have taken steps to heal my adrenals and strengthen my body.
Even in remission, Dr. Afrin’s advice rings true: patient, persistent, and methodological trial and error pays off. Not only I have gained muscle while regaining my adrenal function, but I have also begun tapering my MCAS medications.
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P.S. April is Adrenal Insufficiency Awareness Month and Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder Awareness Month! Both conditions can be caused by MCAS.